Love your parents

By Julia Fernandes

June 4, 2011


The trouble with thefamily is that children grow out of childhood, but parents never grow out ofparenthood. -- Evan Esar, The Comic Encyclopedia


My dad is 74 years old and my mom is 67 years old. While dadis forgetful and cannot remember the things he does, mom has a mild hearing difficulty.When we have to talk to mom we have to make sure we speak very slowly andloudly, almost emphasizing every word.


So, at times it becomes a humourous situation when Mom misinterpretsthe words we tell her. Just a few days back when I woke up in the morning Imistook some sinister looking jumbled thread for a dead cockroach. When Ilooked closely I realized it was a just a thread. I told mom it is a thread, mymom heard is it dead? Some situations make you laugh but sometimes when wesiblings come home after a hard day’s work it becomes so frustrating for us to holda normal conversation without getting agitated. But our mom’s cute wide-eyedinnocent looks at wondering what exactly we spoke simply melt away all ouranger.


Every day my dad will come and ask me, "What is today’sdate?" I look up and tell him the date and he goes to the calendar andencircles the particular date. He does this religiously on a daily basis. Nobodyknows why he does it. Maybe it is his way of remembering the date. To realizethat your father depends on you to tell him a simple date reflects howvulnerable our parents are when they grow old.


When parents are advancing towards old age, they becomeincreasingly dependent on their children. I realized that as children we got tobe patient with their slow and incoherent speech the same way they were patientwith our babble talk when we were small. We got to hold their hands and walkslowly with them exactly the way they held our tiny hands and guided uslovingly as we took our first baby steps. Do not get upset if they break orforget things. They were patient with you when you broke your toys or forgotyour lessons.


It would be wonderful to involve your parents in every areaof your life. Just because today they are old, it does not mean that at somepoint they were not young. Across all centuries, a parent’s love and concernfor their child will always be the same.


Take care of your parents not because they are yourresponsibility but because you love them enough to take care of them. Be kindand patient with them. Treat them with dollops of love and most importantly, time. Your meetings, work, parties, games, and friends, all can wait. But donot keep your parents waiting. For once they enter the twilight years of theirlife, they will soon be gone. 

They may not be the best parents in the world,but that should not stop you from being the best child in the world!